One of my favorite quotes is “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” -John Wooden
This advice is given in order for you to build your character not your reputation! The stronger character you build the better your reputation will be.
I have been a dancer for 37 years, and have been so grateful to have had that therapy and passion. As a dancer I had the honor and privilege to work with so many beautiful young women, and I am always blown away at how these dancers perceived themselves. As women we have a lot of power and control, but more often times than not we use it in the wrong way. Try to be more kind and nice to yourself, and use your power to be great.
When I became a teacher 20 years ago I decided to try and help dancers reach their full potential, not only in Dance but in believing in who they really are. As a teacher I learned some simple things that could help them discover their beauty, and wanted to share them with you.
Here are 10 simple things that if applied daily, will not only change your perception of who you are, but will change your perception of others, and increase the quality of your character.
10 Things Every Girl Should Know
#1. Know your worth! Your worth is not measured in the eyes of others, but measured in the eyes of yourself and your Father in Heaven! Please do not let anyone define who you are, because if you let others get in the way, you will never feel the depth of your true self. Your price is great and you set it, so keep it high.
#2. Wear a smile wherever you go. You are and always will be the most beautiful you, don’t let life weigh you down and bring on that frown. Wear a smile wherever you go, and this alone will lift your spirit. The added bonus is, it will help others feel your love and your light. Other people will be drawn to you, and they will want to know more about who you are.
#3. Protect your beauty, and YES you have it! Beauty is not seen through showing your skin, but through showing your heart. Don’t let others judge you, by trying to defend who you are, when they can’t see past your outfit. I know society should not judge a book by a cover, but let’s be real, they do. Don’t give society and others a chance to pass up knowing who you really are, by sharing to much of the surface and your skin. Especially men! Make a man earn your beauty and he will cherish it forever, but if you give it away for free he will never stick around.
#4. Be kind This does not mean, let everyone walk all over you, and never stick up for yourself. This means to be kind to others, no matter their treatment to you. Being kind will build you up and it will give you power, pride and confidence. We all need that!
#5. Be vulnerable. Being vulnerable means letting others know who you really are the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s OK not to be perfect, because no one is. If they don’t love you just the way you are, they don’t know their own worth and they don’t deserve your friendship. Your secrets will only harness your darkness, and make you feel isolated and alone. Confide in a true friend and you will be free, confident and strong. If you don’t have a true friend, find one because they are out there.
#6 Put your phone down. No relationship will ever be as fulfilling as the one in front of your physical body. Digital connections are fake and have only instant and temporary connection. Your phone is not necassary to survive, but real relationships are. Any chance you can disconnect from that fake reality and connect to who and what really matters, do.
#7 Always find time to serve. Not for them but for you. Don’t serve with the expectation that you’ll get attention or service returned. Serve with the expectation to soften your heart and make it bigger, every time you help another it strengthens Your soul. Even if it’s as simple as opening the door for someone, helping a mom in the store with a young child misbehaving, or even acknowledging something awkward with a sweet expression or comment. People need you!
#8 Stay Humble. Just do it!
#9 Be a Victor NOT a Victim! Let’s be real everyone has a heavy load to bear in their own way, but we don’t want to let it consume us. If we become a victim to any situation we lose the opportunity to grow from it, and lose our connection with reality. There is a difference in becoming a victim, and having a healthy amount of sorrow for our situation. You don’t need to be strong and take it like a champ, but don’t let it suck you in. Your are more important than that.
#10 Be You! Don’t compare yourself to others, because you are enough! You have your own gifts and talents, instead of wishing you were someone else share who you are.
This show is dedicated to Bob Frisbey and his loving wife Laurie. Bob was diagnosed a little over 9 months ago with Mucinous Adenocarcinoma a rare, fast growing, and terminal cancer. Bob and Laurie’s journey with this cancer has been an uphill battle, and they have constantly been fighting for any quality moments they can have together and with their family. Bob and Laurie have a LOVE that is found in storybooks and fairytales, and the pain that this situation has brought to their family is unbearable at times. Bob is one of the largest reasons of why we have God’s Messengers, and has been one of our number one supporters since the moment I had the vision to start this company. I want to show Bob and Laurie, how much they mean to myself and this dance family. Please join us for this unique and inspirational show dedicated to Bob and Laurie for the love they give one and other, their family, and our precious Savior Jesus Christ. http://ow.ly/i/xtZKO http://ow.ly/i/xu064
10 years ago today my life was changed forever, and I could not be more thankful for this amazing man that GOD literally planted on my doorstep. Our journey has been one for the books, but Rex has been my ROCK through it all. We have witnessed the best miracles and suffered the biggest heartaches but we have done it together.
His patience has been beyond what any normal human being has, and he has supported me in everything I do. Not only has he supported me, but he has helped me and been right there with me. I love this man with every fiber of my soul, and I am grateful to call him mine.
10 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT YOU
- The amazing father you are, and the eternal connection you have with our child!
- The love you have for the Gospel!
- The geek behind your sexy face!
- The way you love me!
- The love you have for sports!
- The natural athlete you are!
- The love you have for our families!
- The patience you extend!
- The work ethic you have!
- The flexibility you have in trying new things!
I love you to the moon and back! Love your BABE!
It has been a long time since I have been able to make time to share my two cents on life. Our journey has been sucked up into a whirl wind of chaos, and it has been hard to focus and write. Here is to hopes that I can find the courage to share our love and journey with Bobert and Laurie as their magical love endures their heartbroken situation.
In a world recently turned upside down, I find myself counting every tender mercy that is brought to my attention. Today that tender mercy and sacred blessing is this brown chair!! I was NOT super excited when this chair replaced the family sectional, but as soon as Grandma and Grandpa took to the chair it came to life.
This brown chair has held more love than just your average chair, and has been a place for Bob to rest as he endures his battle with cancer. It has held every member of the Frisbey clan and every loving visitor. This chair has been cried on, laughed on, snuggled on, sat on, twirled around, and ran around. We have always been able to count on this brown chair to be there to catch our fall, or hold our loved ones.
This chair has been a lucky chair to live in such a loving home, and to be part of so many memories. It has watched many of Grandma Laurie’s movies, holiday decorating, Grandkids dancing, and Grandkids playing.
It has been a place for the pregnant women to put their feet up, and a place to hold the new babies. You never know when life will change, and you will be faced with difficult challenges. So be grateful for the tender mercies that just might be under your bum!
We love the Frisbey home and the memories we have been able to create with such loving Grandparents.
A Bobert Defined: To be a Bobert is to be the most selfless Christlike person on Earth, and to stay young at heart. To devote your whole heart to the person you love, to cherish them, and to take care of them. To be a Bobert is to be forgiving of all things, and to love everyone unconditionally. A Bobert is the most loving father and Grandfather, he lives his life with no regrets and takes every opportunity he can to help. #BeABobert
How could I go about getting these 3 laws passed?
#1 Love thy neighbor as thyself.
#2 Treat others as you would like to be treated.
#3 If you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all.
Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to prove someone else to be wrong or evil, that we do exactly to them what we claim is being done to us.
The laws in place are not what make me feel equal or unequal to people around me, the way they treat me is. “Treat others as you would like to be treated!” If you feel so passionately about something then please know and understand, that someone else will feel so passionately about the opposite of what you feel. What makes us unequal is not what we feel passionately about, but how we treat each other and how judge each other is.
Our equality is not measured by our laws, gender, race, education or beliefs. Our equality comes from the way we treat each other. If we loved each other as we love ourself then we would not feel so many differences, or feel the need to constantly point out those differences.
Maybe instead of focusing on who people are or who they are not, we should focus on who we are, how we treat others or how we can help others! Who you are inside and how you treat others, shows me the type of person you are. I honestly could care less what gender you are or are not, who you want to love or don’t, but I do care about the way you treat others so let’s be kind to each other and keep the meanness to ourselves.
Everyone needs to feel safe, secure and loved! Making others feel this comfort is driven by the treatment they witness or receive, not the things they chose to be. Let’s spend our time working to make this a better world by helping others in need, and loving others who are not.
No one will ever feel safe, secure, or loved if we continue to attack each other for standing up for our desires or beliefs! There is a safe way to disagree, and that is by sharing your love not your hate, we can agree to disagree and go on loving each other because we are all the same, humans with beating hearts and pounding heads.
Here is an idea lets use the time that we spend bashing, disagreeing and hating, and turn it into complimenting, serving and loving!
Who we are is what makes a diverse world, how we treat each other in everyday speech and actions are what create a since of inequality.
There is real evil lurking out there, like the perpetrators that are selling 2 million children to sex slavery, or the perpetrators that are selling 8 million other children to labor slavery. INNOCENT CHILDREN don’t even have a chance to figure out their gender or worry about the bathroom to use, because they are busy being rapped and drugged over and over again.
I am sorry but my gay friends, my transgender friends, and my straight friends lets stop waisting time on feeling uncommonfortable and start fighting together to save these children, our country, and all the refugees that don’t even have a flipping bathroom to take care of their business in. We are lucky to even have a bathroom, let a lone a store to shop at.
Did you ever think we could stop fighting about the flipping bathroom and use that time and money to save these innocent children, who think no one is there for them. It’s pretty sad that they or anyone in desperate need are not our focus. Nope in this society our comfort and being accepted is the only focus, we worry about it seems.
I am sorry to tell you, but I am put in uncomfortable situations everyday and feel judged hated or unaccepted. When I come home at night I try to use my time to share my talents and efforts in helping others through this hard life. I don’t want to become a victim to my wants, so when I get a hate or discriminating message I try to think of what the other person might be going through. If we set our comfort aside and help others feel more comfortable and accepted, OUR EVIL WORLD WOULD CHANGE.
As a child I would come home and cry to my Mom about how someone treated me or made me feel less of a person, she never fed my anger or hatred towards that person. Instead she advised me that maybe they are hurting more than I could ever know, maybe they are lonely and afraid. Instead of making me hate them and feel sorry for myself, I felt sorry for them and felt empathy for them.
I saw my enemy through loving eyes and I felt for them, and they no longer became my enemy they became someone in need. Everyone is fighting a battle whether they are gay, straight, black, white, young, old, male, female, the President of the United States or the President of the pep club.
Be kind to those you see, where a smile wherever you go, and that will help others feel equal. Laws are not the only thing that create inequality, people do!
No one will care about a bathroom being labeled, if they feel loved and accepted by the people around them.
It’s hard to come up with new ways to describe these beautiful women, I feel like each entry could fit every dancer on this incredible company. This wonderful woman is always trying to make things better and has such grace and beauty about her. Katasha is always wanting the dancers to have opportunities to be close in growing their relationship’s and sharing memories with each other beyond the dance floor. She is talented in so many things and is one of those you would call a “Jane of all trades”. Katasha is an incredible cook, dancer, photographer, mother, wife and so much more! I have loved knowing her and watching her dance for a long time. She is one of those women who carries the light of Christ in her eyes.
She is thoughtful and always thinking of what she can do to help others. I feel blessed to be in the presence of such grace. She has been a wonderful addition to our company for a long time and I have loved this year with her the most! She has shared her love and passion for dance and Christ with her sisters. Watching them as a family is so inspiring and the love they have for each other is beyond special to me.
Katasha, thank you for always being so giving and thoughtful. You are always ready and willing to jump in to help with anything and have been so generous in letting us invade your family’s home! Thank you for sharing the light of Christ through everything you do. You are one of Heavenly Father’s very choice sisters.
Ellen is now my next victim, she is a first year member of God’s Messengers and has brought such a loving spunk to our team. This girl is real and she is my kind of person, because she is honest and real, you know right where you stand with her. She always seems to stand tall, because she is trying to be strong for everyone around her, but in reality she deserves a deeper love and understanding from everyone.
Acting strong does not mean you are free of the heartache and pain that faces you. The strength that she shows is not because she is being fake or trying to avoid it, but because she is selfless and does not want those around her to be conflicted by it. She is purely selfless, and extremely open to everyone.
This beautiful Woman has been through alot this year, and she has been pushed to her limits and rose above. I am so impressed with her commitment, dedications and follow through. She helps us out more than she will ever know. She is beautiful inside and out!
Remember who you are, keep loving the way you do, and be proud of what God has helped you become. You are a beautiful Mother, and also loved by so many. Let your pain and sorrow out to those you know love you, because they can help you and will help you with no bitterness or judgment.
Don’t worry about what others think, because they don’t know you like God knows you, and he knows your selfless desires and your HUGE heart. You are one of his strongest spirits here on earth, and he will continue to bless you. Thank you for being such an important part of our Company! Love, Misty
What? Yes I said it correctly, my next girl is Kayla Medina the newest Mom on our team. This girl is breathtaking, and the one of the most gorgeous Moms ever. I am always inspired at the love she has for others especially her Hubby and Son. She is a new Mother, but you would have no clue because she makes it look like a breeze. She is a very strong and positive person, and one we are super lucky to have.
Kayla stands tall and strong, and is secure with who she is and what she wants. I love and respect that she knows who she is and she loves herself a quality we all need! She is not afraid to say what is on her mind, but does it in a very loving way.
I love being able to have her and her sister on GM, and watch them as they watch each other. They come from a very loving and connected family, and I feel incredibly blessed to know them. I love to watch Kayla as she shares her talent and testimony.
Kayla you are a wonderful and incredible person, a very choice and beautiful spirit. Always remember who you are, and never let anyone change that for you. Keep the love and compassion you have for your boys and never be afraid to show it. If more people opened their heart and soul up to their loved ones like you, the world would be a much better place.
Well it was a crazy week and I was gratefully stranded without internet, so I am just getting back to the cyber world. One of the things I missed most, well I was gone, was sharing with you about these beautiful women that I am blessed to have in my life.
My next victim of choice is “Miss” Adrienne Bangerter. Oh how I love this girl, she is one of the most fun loving people I know! She is always up for a good time, and is a super fun sidekick to be around. She is easygoing, and goes with the flow of all things crazy. Adi has the best laugh, smile and jokes and I love the fact that she uses them often.
I have had the privilege to know this beautiful woman for a while now, and it has been so fun to watch her adventures especially in becoming a Mother. She is a wonderful and beautiful Mother, and her kids are super lucky to have her.
Adi, you rock! I look up to you so much and am so glad to have you back to company this year. It has been fun to watch you share your talents and your love for our Savior, Jesus Christ. I know that you are loved by so many, but especially by Him. Never doubt your beauty or who you are, and keep living the way you are. You are a ROCK-STAR! Love, Misty
Here is another beautiful member of our God’s Messengers Dance Company. This is Brittany and she is as kind as they come. I have had the privilege to be raised a few doors down from her and she has always had such a special glow with her. She carries Christ’s light close to her heart, and it radiates for miles around her.
She is so kind to everyone that she sees, she wears a smile wherever she goes, and she is an inspirational Mother. Her stage presence is breath taking, and mesmerizing.
Brittany Thank You for being so kind and so beautiful. You carry a great humility and excitement that attracts people to you. You are always thinking of others, and helping wherever you can.